interest of others.
-- H.H. the Fourteenth Dalai Lama, "The Pocket Dalai Lama", published by
Shambhala Publications
+~
+ Compassion is an internal attitude that may manifest in our behavior.
+However, compassion is not the behavior itself, for one behavior can be done
+with different motivations. For example, we may take care of a sick relative
+because we have genuine affection for him. Conversely, we may care for him
+because we want to inherit his estate. The action is the same, but the
+motivations differ. The first motivation is prompted by genuine compassion,
+the second by self-concern.
+ Acting with compassion entails being creative and knowing that one
+behavior is not suitable for all occasions. In some circumstances, we may be
+compassionate by sharing our possessions; while in others, we may show it by
+saying, “no.” In this way, compassion must be combined with good judgment to
+be effective.
+ -- Russell Kolts and Thubten Chodron, "An Open-Hearted Life", published by
+ Shambhala Publications